“Research show that the more elements make up your idenity, the less threatening it is when any one element is threatened.” – Gretchen Rubin “The Happiness Project”
As I sat at breakfast this past Saturday, reading my book, this sentence jumped out at me. Frankly, it felt like the heavens opened up and the angels sang..talk about speaking a timely word right to my heart! Both children will be in college this fall, my identity has been a little confused. It is still somewhat adhered to being a mom of dependent children, not mostly independent adults.
Encouraged by this statement, I began to take stock of the pieces of identity that I carry around with me, some easily identified, others a bit harder to pin down. A quick listing would include wife, mother, daughter,sister, friend… many of the roles that encompass the female gender. Looking beyond the obvious, I am a quilter, a writer, I knit, coffee drinker, chocolate fiend, I crochet, dog owner, a former homeschooling mom, gluten free, dairy free, soy free,a walker, not a runner…. these pieces spring to mind easily. For me the foundation of all identity is rooted and grounded in the love of Jesus, and my love for Him.
Next month I will be taking a class and getting my motorcycle license.. snap..add another piece to the idenity puzzle. In a simple, easy way this idea has encouraged me to continue to add to who I am, expanding my world. As pieces age out, become obsolete, or no longer interest me, I am encouraged to look around my world and press forward as I build an amazing picture.
** Update on the washing machine… so far so good, turning on the water at the pipes has been very effective. It is amazing how little laundry I really need, these days it is wash and wear, my closet is the folded basket. I have refrained from shopping for new washers, I really believe that The Man can fix it when he returns. Until then, it’s just- in- time underwear!